When Jared was little, we went through various discipline techniques as, I'm sure, most parents do. There were a number of them that didn't work. Right now, we find that taking away a favorite toy will most likely result in desired behavior. I've never really thought of him as "undisciplined" or "unruly". He obeys when asked, however, sometimes it will take a couple times. He doesn't scream or have tantrums if he doesn't get what he wants. Lately, he has been getting emotional and quietly crying about it, though.
So, when Dr. Champagne recommended a discipline program for our son, I was confused. I thought, "What? I've watched him obey you!" and "He doesn't talk back to you" and "Here! Look! See how he obeys, the first time?" I thought, "Surely you can just tell us which technique, out of the ones we've all heard, works best for kids with this particular disability." I later realized that she meant a different kind of discipline.
Today we ordered Dr. Lehman's Total Transformation program. Sounds like an infomercial, right? I think that. And, I'm not really convinced yet, either. The tag line says, "Are you struggling with a child who is disrespectful, defiant, obnoxious, or even abusive toward you?" The marketing states things like "How to get your kid to behave" and "Stop your child's lying" and "How to stop kids from stealing from parents". Umm... I don't think of Jared when I hear these things. So, I dug a little deeper. I never classified self esteem, social anxiety and motivation under behavior problems. I didn't know that parents had a discipline program for self esteem! Kind of seems mean, right? Maybe I'm just hung up on the words. Who knows? I sure don't. But, Dr. C. thinks this will help us parent Jared away from sabotage and avoidance and into stamina and efficiency. I hope this risk-free "best selling child behavior program" works!
Train up a child in the way he should go. Even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 (NASB)
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